Creating a new reality works better when we let go of all the HOWs, the WHYs, the WHENs, the WHEREs – all those symptoms of emotional attachment to an outcome.
(hint: if you’re asking those questions, you’re caught up in resistance so you’ll want to let that go)
Sometimes that leap of faith can feel scary, or we might start doubting our path.
So we need to master the art of trust.
Trust in ourselves.
Trust in the system.
Trust in the future.
Trust that everything is working out, even when we don’t know the details yet.
And this can be kinda tricksey, if our old identity has a habit of being wary, nervous and uncertain.
So here’s my prescription for increased trust:
Take three long, slow belly breaths (and I’m serious about the long and slow piece – no rushing!).
As you do, gently put some gossamer awareness on your body, not in order to change anything, but simply so that you can become aware.
You may notice parts of your body relax, all by themselves, as you put your awareness on them.
You can say to yourself “all is well here” if you want, but you don’t have to.
Sound too simple? Feel too woowoo?
The slow deep breathing sends a message to your brain that you are safe.
And your more-relaxed body reinforces the signal of “safe” and increases your brain’s willingness to embrace it.
If you’re still feeling insecure or unsafe after three breaths, you can do two more cycles of three breaths – it’s a good idea to do some normal breathing in between, we don’t want any hyperventilating.
You might find you need to do this several times on days when it all feels a bit wobbly. And that’s okay.
You’re retraining your brain, remember.
Trust is your ally when it comes to creating a new reality, stepping into a new identity. Having your brain onside makes that leap of faith MUCH easier.
And – as a bonus! – this simple conscious breathing can be a powerful anchor for “safe” or “secure” or “all is well”, if those are a part of your new identity.
What do YOU use to increase trust?