Each of us arrived on the planet with our own unique core, authentic Self, with its own values, preferences, and desires. So why change identity? Doesn’t that just mean we’re pretending, or confused, or lying?
Not if we shift identity in the way I mean!
Yes, we each have that unique core Self, the true authentic YOUness of you.
And then we have the social self; the learned paradigm of thoughts, beliefs and behaviours we’ve taken on board from society, media, teachers, parents and other authority figures.
Those learned pieces create a kind of acquired identity.
That’s the one we might want to change – especially if the acquired identity is not completely resonant and aligned with our core, authentic Self.
We cannot change our core Self.
That’s not the point of identity shifting.
But – as Carl Jung said – the journey of life is the journey back towards the Self.
And if our acquired identity is getting in the way, then changing the acquired identity is a powerful way to make the journey smoother.
Our core Self knows that abundance is easy and plentiful for all; that love is all around us; that people are mostly good; and that the Universe is a friendly place.
Our acquired identity might have a very different model of reality – and that’s the one which will feel painful or uncomfortable or full of angst.
Our acquired identity might believe that money is hard to come by, that love is fleeting, that people are stinky and the Universe is dangerous.
How do I know if my acquired identity is at odds with my core Self?
Because that’s where painful and sticky emotions are born – in the heat of friction and the pressure of resistance; in the constant turmoil, the dissonance of a mismatched set of identities.
And the cessation of those habitual and painful thoughts and feelings doesn’t come when I squish down the painful feelings, because that just adds to my internal friction and tension.
Rather, the peace comes from opening up to understanding the acquired identity – and then choosing to change it.
That’s the ultimate answer to the question why change identity – because it FEELS better.
And – as a side benefit – when you change that acquired identity, you tell both the Universe and your brain that you are the person who is now resonant and aligned with your greatest good.
This is the path to a more aligned vibration, too. And as every LOA coach will tell you, an aligned vibration makes it way easier for your dream stuff to come to you.
That’s why you can’t make your identity rely on outside circumstances.
(It’s also, by the way, why our circumstances only have the power of about 10% to make us happy).
You make the shift from someone who is terrified about geo-political trends, to someone who is confident and actively enabling a positive outcome.
You make the shift from someone who is stuck in a dead-end job, to someone who is fired up with heartfelt passion about their career, and having a ball creating it.
That acquired identity is not who you truly are.
And if it’s causing resistance and friction and tension, it’s potentially blocking your good.
That’s why to change identity, in a nutshell.
Yes, it requires an investment of effort on your part.
Sometimes that effort is simply the act of noticing the old identity’s thoughts and beliefs and behaviours, and deciding not to repeat them.
Sometimes that effort requires a little more digging and a little more conscious application.
But going through life with a mismatched identity has already been hard work. And since you’re stepping into an identity which is more resonant with your joy-filled life, this work will mostly feel good.
It’s totally worth doing.
And you can get a free audio about how to do it, right here (no sign up required!)
PS if you’d like specific help with identity shifting and creating the life you crave, I can also help you with that.