I ask because we’re in a world of swirling emotions and ideas and discussion and theories and rhetoric and actions, and it’s easy to lose your footing.
I felt it myself, watching the horrendous footage of alt-right supporters making the heil salute. As a baby boomer who grew up in a UK still reeling from the impact of finding out the full and appalling truth of Hitler’s Germany, that pushed me straight into grief and anger and a desire to punch someone in the head.
Obviously that wasn’t a solution. Aside from anything else, the only person handy was my darling hubby and he is just as appalled as I was.
I needed an action to take, to help feel I wasn’t helplessly standing by and letting them ‘get away with it’.
But I also know that any action I take is going to emphasise the part of me which I’m bringing to it, underneath.
If I’m going to claim to be someone who seeks love and joy and truth and beauty and inclusivity in the world, then I have to choose.
Either my actions are resonant with all of that.
Or they’re dissonant.
Dissonance is when things sound wrong together.
If I do a dissonant action, that action is either impotent (because it’s not in line with who I truly am) or it’s destructive (because it actively works against who I truly am).
If I do a resonant action, it has power behind it because it’s utterly supported by my truth.
Hence my question.
Who are you, really?
Before you share a FB post or respond to a comment or take an action or sign a petition, ask yourself “who am I really? – and will this action be resonant with who I truly am?”
This is why you won’t find me sharing that alt-right footage. They’ve been exposed, so there is no need for me to share it in order to help others know what I mean.
My true self is a warrior for love, compassion, inclusivity and collaboration.
She chooses love over fear, every time.
She knows that the alt-right are deeply misguided people whose actions are deplorable, and whose focus is fear over love.
She knows they do not need any more attention than I’ve already given them. And she knows the value of putting my focus on what I DO want.
So what I will do is share posts and memes and petitions and actions which are FOR the things I truly believe in: the power of inclusivity and collaboration; the power of love and compassion; the power of people to make a difference.
And what I will also do is invite conservatives of good heart to clearly and publicly reject the alt-right rhetoric and embrace the themes of love and acceptance I prefer.
So I repeat.
Who are you, really?
Because I’m willing to bet that you’re a decent person whose true self will always choose love over fear.
And that means your actions – when you connect to that deep down YOUness of you – will be the actions of someone who chooses love over fear.