We’re here to experience the whole rich array of feelings, to feel them flow and swirl within us as part of the big Human Life adventure.
If we can allow all our emotions to flow through us without resistance, they will pass without causing major pain.
I wrote recently about how to let emotions flow, knowing how and when to feel our feelings, and how to keep things moving.
But when we get stuck in an emotion, finding relief from the pain of it can be elusive. We can find support to work with it, or we can often find relief in the simplest of ways.
Here are my top five surefire ways to sweet relief:
Change the subject
If the topic I’m thinking about makes my shoulders hunch or my jaw clench, I know it’s time to get off it and think about something else entirely. Those physical signs are clues that I’m not yet in a place where I can bring creative problem solving to the situation, so I’m better off leaving it alone for now.
Switch it round
If I’m not enjoying my thoughts about a topic, I know clearly what I don’t want. And that lets me know what I DO want. Once I know that, I can choose to spend some time focussing on that wanted outcome and enjoying the delicious ways it might play out. The more I can do that, relax and chill out, the better I’ll feel – and that opens the doors wide for Universe to deliver what I’m seeking.
Keep it general
This is especially for when I can’t yet figure out how my wanted thing will unfold in detail. I simply hold the intention that I’ll be happy with the outcome, only take inspired action, and let Universe take care of the details.
Quit keeping score
Measuring myself by any external factor – money in the bank, number of Facebook friends, years on the planet, kilos on the scales – is asking for trouble. And measuring ourselves is a habit humans are all trained into. The good news here is, the more deeply entrenched my score-keeping habit, the more opportunities I have to get relief when I give it up. Neat, huh?
Use my words
I have a few favourite magic spells, which I’ve written about before. But I like to mix it up so I’ve added a few extras to the list:
- CTFD (aka “calm the fuck down”)
- OK great! (as in “I’m stuck in traffic and running late… OK great!”)
- I got this
- Lucky I’m so rich!
Now, over to you. What are some of your favourite techniques to get relief?
PS if you’ve tried these and they’re not working, it may be time to get some help with the heavy lifting.